Moving through Overwhelm

I’m feeling overwhelmed and have been stuck in and out of that space for a couple of weeks; I’m feeling a little frozen, not unlike the scene outside of our windows.  The project has grown in many unanticipated ways and demands more work and constantly learning new skills.  While it’s invigorating, it’s also exhausting.  Never, when we began this project, did we anticipate making a video series on healing from grief, loss, and trauma.  But, here we are making the Healing Heart to Heart series, creating a YouTube channel, and needing to learn more about sharing on social media.  We feel like we’re not doing any of it to the quality and consistency that it deserves.

So, what keeps us working on it and learning all that’s necessary to keep up?  We are still inspired by the idea of We-All-Can, because we really believe that the many daily kindnesses and courageous thoughts and deeds can lead to real change and healing; and that providing a platform to encourage, comfort, and inspire each other is worthy work.

We are also inspired by the feedback we have been receiving.  Many of you let us know that you have been uplifted by the site.  Several Facebook posts received more than 500 looks and one got nearly 6000.  We are encouraged by our invitation to present We-All-Can at the Mayor’s Volunteer Program Appreciation Awards Banquet with an anticipated audience of over 300.

We are encouraged by your help and kindness.  Pastor Jonathan Dobbs introduced me to the tripod for my phone to film Healing Heart to Heart videos.  Counselor Kelly Anglin spent two patient hours with me filming her video because  my technology didn’t work correctly.  Each person interviewed gave heartfelt wisdom and shared so very generously.  I learned and was blessed by each of you!

Thank you, to each of you who checks out the site, “likes,” or shares.  Thank you to all of you who live your lives with kindness and courage; you inspire us and are our beacon to continue.

Share How You Care

Tragedy can Create Community

As the president said in response to the shooting in Las Vegas, ” Hundreds of our fellow citizens are now mourning the sudden loss of a loved one — a parent, a child, a brother or sister. We cannot fathom their pain. We cannot imagine their loss. To the families of the victims: We are praying for you and we are here for you, and we ask God to help see you through this very dark period. ”

No, we cannot fathom the pain of loved ones left behind, of those recovering in hospitals, and of those who feared for their lives.  It is tragic and outrageous, like the other senseless shootings in our country and around the world.

He also noted that, “In moments of tragedy and horror, America comes together as one — and it always has”.

That sentiment, of unifying out of tragedy, was mentioned after the attacks in Paris and London, and in the wake of many other tragedies, including the recent hurricanes and earthquakes.  It is beautiful that people rise to disasters with caring and compassion.  It is wonderful that donations of time, blood, and money are generously given.  It is healing that people begin to know their neighbors.

We don’t have to wait for tragedy to rise with compassion, caring, and getting to know our neighbors.  We can help to strengthen bonds of community as we live our lives by getting to know and appreciate those who live near us and who we see as we run our errands and shop.

We can have a block party.  We can converse over the fence, in elevators, or standing in line.  We can attend community events and get to know someone new.  We can view school meetings or volunteering as opportunities to build community.   All of these actions help to build safety, caring, and belonging which are some of the positive characteristics that tragedies can bring forth.

In this way we can daily honor those who have died in random violence or who have lost homes and loved ones in natural disasters.   As the president further said in his remarks, “we can take solace knowing that even the darkest space can be brightened by a single light, and even the most terrible despair can be illuminated by a single ray of hope.”  We can extend that hope and light to others, and we can receive the gifts that they share.





Wonderful Support

The Atlantic at sunset; a gorgeous site for a desert dweller

Travel is one of the categories that we are observing to see what patterns may emerge.  Several things stand out about a trip I took last week:  the joy of celebrating our son, the kindness of strangers, and the support of your posts.

Likely many of you know the joy of celebrating the achievements of someone you love, and that was certainly the highlight of a trip I took across the country last week for our son’s graduation.  Graduations are particularly lovely events because they are clear demarcations of the ending of one phase and beginning of something new. They are a reason to pause, to reflect, to celebrate, to dream.  We hope many of you have experienced this particular joy!

Andrea and Doug Sendebry were wondrous angels as they saved the day by stepping in to pay for my rental car.  Your heart will be warmed and you will be inspired by their actions; see post in the Forum under “Acts of kindness, love, courage” for the full story of their kindness!!/actsoflovekindnesscourage

The previous couple of weeks were hectic as we prepared to launch this site, created the ceremony to celebrate a world with more compassion and dignity, and continued to learn new skills so we could moderate the site.  I was exhausted by the time I checked in to my hotel and logged into We All Can.  I read the wonderful forum posts about mindfulness and was inspired to sink into my fatigue rather than resist it.  Because of your wisdom, I began to enjoy the fatigue and found myself smiling at the beauty of life.  Shortly after, I walked to the beach and took the photo above.