The previous discussion about fun brings to mind that often what we call fun and play is more of an extension of stress, competition, and comparison. Now, of course some competition can be fun but that energy can also dominate and steal the fun. For example, we may enjoy skiing or mountain biking, but do we feel pressure to get the newest gear to keep up? I was discussing 4H programs with a friend whose daughter raises and shows steers. She said that parents will spend tens of thousands of dollars to buy the right calf so their child can win Grand Champion. These pressures to dominate and compare can remove the human element from competition, learning, and fun. Frustration, failure, obligation and shame can overtake projects that were originally meant to bring fun and to open us to our glorious humanity.
This raises the question, “What is fun for you?” Where do you find yourself lifted out of the moment and taken over by the engagement that you have with a project, nature, relationship, skill….? Where do you connect with your soul?